Nobiyuki77 wrote:And strangely enough, it's also one of the reasons I just can't ever seem to get a girlfriend. I'm too nice to them, and all the treatment I ever get in return is a quick pat on the back while they go give themselves to some bastard who hits them twice a week and treats them like -Dragon Diamond-. As nice and respectful as I am to them, they tend to act like they don't want it.
Other men have called me a "-Plantella-" on several occasions. They tell me to just go over there and take them. That's what they want, they tell me. I wouldn't believe them and would try to earn respect and love by giving them respect and love. It has never worked once in my entire life. Not once. And I'm not some ugly bastard or anything. So then, the friends I don't believe go over there and just "take them" and voalla, they're completely taken. It's baffled me to no end on several occasions. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother...
Yup, been there, seen it, experienced it. You are not crazy, the fact is this happens all the time, and is really ticking me off. But that can be a story for another day.
Now then, I saw the original picture, and you know what? I see girls dressed like that everywhere. Even in wal-mart. Oh wait, did you hear the one about that girl who got kicked off a plane for being too sexy in that ultra mini-skirt? She had a play boy photoshoot after that. Yup. My sister dresses like that at home too, and sometimes when she goes out at night. Shoot, I even see 2 year olds dressed like that by THEIR mother or father.
Look, I am not sure why it is so difficult to accept the following:
1. Some girls/women DO dress like that. The more attractive they are, the less they wear. Maybe not in Kansas, or Washington D.C., or California, or any other state any of you reside in, but in Colorado Springs, it's a freaking fact. The more attractive they are, the less they wear. The younger they are, the more attractive they are, the less they where.
2. I fail to see how pants are better than showing fless. At least those shorts are baggy, despite being short. Better than the 90% of teens and 20s that wear pants so tight it hugs their rare end so tight you can see their crack clear as day THROUGH the pants.
3. Men are visually turned on creatures, and even more so due to social upbringing. I see a girl who has a very nice wear end, I WILL look. I WILL looking. Ultimately, I end up disappointed with myself, due to my lack of control. Not that it isn't possible, but even a article in a magazine by Focus on the Family admitted that guys are VISUALLY based men. Visually, we love to LOOK at women.
4. Normal girls don't have size As. Maybe size Bs, but it is fairly rare to see a A sized woman, at least in Colorado Springs. Normal girls like to dress up, usually in a very non-conservitive fashion.
5. Why are you blaming someone who is a male, thus visually attracted to women like many men, instead of all the women who DO dress like that? Why not attack the women who openly meet or exede that stereotype that only seems to exsist in the mind of us womanizing pigs?
6. Plain and boring, sorry, we don't notice that. A girl walks by, plain and boring. At the same time, a girl walks by in a bikini. Who do you think I am going to notice* first?
*A little honesty? I'm more turned on when I see an attractive girl in sweats or baggy pajama pants/shirts than if they where wearing miniskirts and bikinis. But I WILL notice the bikini and look far longer just from the sheer attractions.
Also, I *AM* a nice guy, and even I can't help but stare. Still, I don't fantasize about them in my head, aside from the whole "would love to date her" thoughts. I don't go to strip joints, I find them demeaning to the women who pick that for a carreer. I still end up feeling horrible for looking, even though I really can't help it. For the girls I know, I also do my best to be as respectful to them as I possibly can be, for they are my friends or whatever, and it dishonors them to do that.